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Heather, the best ideas are this simple and so, so valuable. I have started doing this in the area of relaxation, as in, "I don't want to be tethered to my computer. I want to relax at night." So at 8 PM, I move my laptop back into my office and enjoy some streaming picks with my husband, and I'm not looking down at a screen on my lap. Simplicity at its best.

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You're so right, Jill. Simplicity.

Your evenings sound lovely!

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Jan 30·edited Jan 30Liked by Heather Brebaugh

I didn't know it had a name! Thanks, Heather.

I never liked talking to my boss's back as he typed away on his computer, so I decided I would not do it to my staff. I went to the office early enough (sometimes that was really early) so I could deal with urgent emails, etc, before folks started dropping by my office at 8:30. They were my priority before noon and I was ready to look them in the eye. No talking to backs in my office.

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No back talk for you! Seriously though, there's nothing more valuable than being able to look someone in the eyes when talking. I bet your team respected you.

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I think they did, because when I decided to take another international posting, they signed a petition for me to not be hired for the position. I always thought it was probably a case of the devil you know. . .

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.... or maybe the angel you want...

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Could it be that sometimes we don’t have the one extra bad habit over the line? Me? I don’t chew tobacco and always lower the toilet seat.

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Love this. It’s funny how we know how to set goals naturally as you mentioned— taking out the garbage— but in life it might not be so easy. Having self awareness is a bonus. I like setting small goals. The biggies can be overwhelming. Thx for sharing these wonderful tips.

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James Clear - one of my very favorite authors. This formula seems to put more weight on our intentions. Luv it!

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Thanks, Janice. I think it's all about choices.

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So, do I Heather.

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Jan 31Liked by Heather Brebaugh

My goal = My Behavior at Location at Time, Ongoing. Repeat.

A very succinct formula. Thanks for the concrete examples, too! Cool!

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Hey Sharron. TBH, struggling a bit with what I want to do with content and message. Thanks for reading!

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Feb 4Liked by Heather Brebaugh

I really like and try to adhere to the concept. Abstract thoughts about positive actions come so easily but are typically ineffective. Throwing in three concrete components is a little harder but so much more likely to have positive results. I like it!

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Thanks, Mark. I think it takes making the decision that you want to achieve something and then using the framework to help you make that happen.

A small example from my own life: I am a terrible vitamin taker. I kept saying I'd take them, but would then promptly forget. So I decided to take them every morning when I was having my cup of tea. I placed the bottle next to the tea bags (so no excuses haha). It worked and has now become a habit. I think that, by starting with something small, you can build the habit so you can then add something else.

Thanks for reading!

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You're welcome Heather, sounds like a plan.

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